It is subjective, and yet so important. More so today, when anyone’s reach is only limited by the speed of his or her internet connection. You can block your kids from social media, but you can’t block their friends from exposing them to instagram, fb, twitter, snapchat, etc. Instead you listen and try to keep a straight face while you hear them interact with their friends about uploading photos and videos, and teasing one another about following this girl and that girl’s insta account while you drive them to places. As long as it sounds harmless and normal adolescent thing, I keep my mouth shut. They need me to drive them to places and I am happy to do it as it gives me the time and space to know what they are into. Parenting teenagers is delicate – I tread lightly knowing that they are now going through changes and discovering their strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, voices, etc, etc. I am not a friend, yet do not want to become the enemy. I need to keep them in line while still allowing them to grow and find their places in the world. It is a constant struggle, but sadly I know it is only temporary. What follows is adulthood, when they will be tested and I will not be able to force right or good choices on them. They will have to make their own choices, be proud of their success and stand by their own decisions as well as mistakes. When that time comes, I hope that my opinion still matter.