One of my sons turned 15 recently. The day before his birthday marked the 5th year of the divorce. I don’t really like to use the d-word but in this case, it is what it is. Because the dates are back to back, celebrating his birthday is a bittersweet affair. It is amazing to see your son grow up into a young man, but it is sad to remember how different things were for him 5, 6, 7…..15 years ago. It is not regret that I feel, it is just a sigh moment for me. Getting over a divorce is so complicated. Other people are remarried by now – I am still trying to find the right words to explain things, emotions, etc.. I feel like I need to process emotions, understand why I feel certain ways about things despite knowing and believing that life IS better in general.
I was talking to a friend about bullying and how we were mean when we were younger. She said – it is easier for bullies to move on. but for the person that was bullied – it will take a long time for her/him to heal, if ever. Which totally makes sense!