I have always taught my children that actions lead to consequences. However, as a parent sometimes I have to bite my tongue when the consequences are out of my control. Sometimes I tell myself to relax and let them learn some things the hard way, or at least harder than what they are used to. They have fared well enough in their new school after a year and although it’s good on the most part, i.e. friends, results, spirits, I have my reservations about the way the teachers enforce discipline in the school. I do not 100% oppose it; I just cringe when I heard what my children tell me from time to time. At the same time, I shudder when I see school going children ponteng sekolah to play snooker near my office and I cry when I hear anak orang lain kena buli. I am torn. I want teachers to discipline the students (the worst possible scenario is when teacher just give up and do nothing), yet I cringe when I found out what kind of treatment they are exposed to i.e. head pushing, face slapping and shoes throwing from the top to the ground floor.
As a parent, how do I explain to my teenage boys that violence is unjustifiable when their teachers are free to hit, push, throw, scream, etc. I think the shock they experienced last year is gone, which is not entirely good because it means they are used to the nonsense.
My mother is mad. She said ‘kalau takde kesabaran jangan jadi cikgu’. As much as I agree with her, I know teachers are humans. Yet I wonder, what are you trying to TEACH them? If you hit people, they will get your way? If you throw things, you will get what you want?
Being a parent who complains to the principal each time your child kena punish will just alienate your child. Being a parent who badmouths the teachers is wrong too.
Should I just tell the boys that life is hard, so suck it up? Know when it’s your fault, learn to apologize and move on. Know who not to mess with. Know the rules and follow them. I think that’s how I survived !